Positive First anal pleasure exploration: A Guide

This article is about the essentials to reach positive anal experiences together. It's important to note that everyone's experience is unique, and communication, consent, and comfort are paramount in any sexual activity.

Anal play refers to any sexual activity involving the anus and rectum for pleasure, exploration, or intimacy. This can include a variety of activities such as anal stimulation, penetration, massage, or simply the exploration of erogenous zones around the anus.

It's essential to recognize that anal play can be enjoyable and fulfilling for individuals of all genders and sexual orientations, but it's also crucial to approach it with care and attention to safety. Proper communication, relaxation, lubrication, and the use of appropriate protection, such as condoms or gloves, are vital aspects of engaging in anal play responsibly.

Moreover, it's important to dispel any myths or misconceptions surrounding anal play, such as associating it exclusively with certain sexual orientations or activities. Everyone's preferences and boundaries are unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to anal play. It's about understanding and respecting individual desires, boundaries, and comfort levels while prioritizing pleasure, safety, and mutual consent.

A guide for a positive anal first experience:

1. Communication and Consent:

   • Open communication is crucial. Make sure all parties involved are on the same page about trying anal play.

   • Discuss boundaries, desires, and concerns beforehand to ensure everyone feels comfortable and consents willingly.

2. Relaxation and Comfort:

   • Create a comfortable and relaxed environment. This might involve dim lighting, soothing music, or any other elements that help reduce tension.

   • Engage in activities that help relax the body, such as a sensual massage or other forms of foreplay.

3. Education and Preparation:

   • Learn about the anatomy of the anus and the importance of using plenty of water-based or silicone-based lubricant to reduce friction and discomfort. Recommended water-based gel: Anal Play Gel by LELO and Bijoux indiscrets collaboration

   • Start with smaller anal toys or fingers to gradually introduce the idea of anal play. Gradual progression helps the muscles relax and minimizes discomfort. For example, the SORAYA Beads by LELO is a great device to explore your gradual progression. Its design and variation of harmonizing vibrations increase the sensation and provide a wonderful experience for Anal Play first-timers.

4. Lubrication:

   • Use a high-quality lubricant specifically designed for anal play. Apply generously to ensure smooth and comfortable penetration.

   • Reapply lubricant as needed throughout the experience.

5. Positioning:

   • Choose a comfortable and accessible position. Experiment with different positions to find what works best for everyone involved.

   • Consider starting with positions that allow the receiver to have control over the depth and pace of penetration.

6. Patience and Communication During Play:

   • Take things slow and pay attention to the comfort level of all participants. If someone is experiencing discomfort, pause and communicate openly about how to proceed.

   • Encourage verbal and non-verbal communication throughout the experience. This helps create a safe space for everyone involved.

7. Aftercare:

   • After the experience, engage in aftercare activities to ensure emotional well-being. This might involve cuddling, verbal affirmations, or any other activities that promote a sense of closeness and comfort.

8. Reflection and Feedback:

   • Afterward, take time to reflect on the experience individually and discuss it with your partner(s). Share what went well, what could be improved, and any desires or boundaries for future experiences.

Remember, the key to a positive anal first experience is communication, consent, and a focus on the comfort and well-being of all involved parties. It's essential to approach anal play with an open mind, patience, and a commitment to creating a positive and consensual environment.


Check our Anal Play Page to see our most recommended devices

Devices that were mentioned in the article: SORAYA Beads by LELO and Anal Play Gel by LELO & Bijoux Indiscrets. If you want to read our full LELO’s SORAYA Beads product review click here

How to Turn a Breakup into Self-Indulgence

[Featured Pleasure Toys; LELO]

At the age of 39, you get to a stage in your life when you already know right from the start which relationship is going to work and which isn’t, for most. As a grown person, awoke adult, you know yourself in and out, you are aware of your flaws and your virtues and you fully embrace both. You have learned how to make your life the best you can for yourself and you work hard on making them even better. Even the struggling in difficult times, you have learned how to overcome them resiliently. You appreciate the purest connections, those who make intimate communication so precious. You indulge in the happy moments of appreciating your partner and the love you share while mutually being appreciated by them. Life for you is pretty damn good. You nod to agree, I would, too. But sometimes, once in a while, you fall into a rabbit hole… After all, we are all humans. 

And here I am, a highly-functioning adult, single (ethical non-monogamous) and happy. I own and manage businesses, with a really impressive disruptive record behind and a great love for what I do. I am a problem solver by definition and title. I am also a romantic type of person… Ok let’s be honest, the extremely romantic type - the poet. I adore passion and great love stories and the excitement of meeting a person who still gives me butterflies even years after we first met. Unfortunately, these butterflies sometimes turn into shivers, and not in a good way. Well, sometimes, even creative, confident grown-ups who are living a free life, find themselves in a somewhat toxic relationship. The best advice in times like that is to get the hell out of them. So I have tried,  for the last few months, on and off - again and again, until I had enough and just ended it. But, as efficient as I am, I made a plan - "how to stay away from toxicity" plan. Coincidently enough LELO recently had launched a new series of pleasure toys and sent us two of them to review: the SORAYA 2 and SONA 2 Cruise. A spoiler; two of the best toys I had ever tried.
Well, I am famous for taking limes and turning them into mojitos so I took my problem - getting over a bad breakup and decided to set myself a goal and turn that blues into a bliss. I created myself a "detox" plan and almost fully blocked my evenings' calendar to test the new toys while I recover and heal my broken heart and lift my spirit. I must admit, the plan was successful. While my beloved other partners understood my isolation mode and my need to get my emotional system back on track. 

According to the plan, I decided to take the time, try the toys and learn their abilities, to master their functionalities and understand their added values. I decided, learning new toys’ optimal experience is a great project to concentrate on while trying to keep myself busy. Needless to say, I learned to admire the SONA 2 Cruise sonic sounds, during my second orgasm, it felt as it orchestrates for me. To be completely honest, it took me a few minutes to get the hang out of it. But once I did, I submitted myself to its uniqueness technology and fell in love with its neat sonar waves technique - Absolutely amazing! 
A broken heart after the third tryout turned into an optimistic psyche, I gained my mojo back and felt intact again. I tried in the bath, too. I had used the word 'generous' to describe it the night after when I went to see a partner of mine. And then, I tried it with him, it was so intense I experienced out-of-body experience. We spent the night together, him, me the SONA 2 Cruise and SORAYA 2. Well, the week I gave myself to detox from a bad relationship, turned into evenings of self-celebration and orgasmic wonders. The SORAYA 2 is incredible, it can get as intense as I like it, the patterns it has just got me to a sensational state of mind. I love my solo-play to be long and intense. I love the feeling of almost flying when my body exquisitely savors in its pleasure. I adore the moment my body loses control within a wave of multi-orgasms, both SORAYA 2 and SONA 2 Cruise got me there. 

So, if you are looking to gain your confidence back, or just learning to love your orgasmic self again, you should try LELO's new and enticing new toys, from my experience, SORAYA 2 and SONA 2 Cruise are the best bad relationship healers of them all. 

SORAYA 2

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SONA 2 Cruise

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