Sex-Positivity in our eyes is an honest and safe discussion about sexuality and/or a-sexuality, for the matter. It is about focusing on inclusivity. It can be a discussion about feeling comfortable in your skin, in your sexual attraction or orientation, in your romantic orientation or attraction and especially it is a discussion about self-love and mutual pleasure. It can involve physical diversity, emotional diversity, mental diversity, orgasm diversity and any other form of individuality. After all, human sexuality is so vast and can be manifested in so many different forms.
We can mention all cliches out there, stating the beauty of different skin tones, body shapes, physical mobility differences, gestures and manners of tenderness, love, affection, care, and other emotions. They are all true. We let our community share their Pleasure Toys Stories and we see over and over again how intimacy is usually the main key in lovers’ sexual communication and it is incredible. We would mention the importance of gaining self-confidence and learning your self-pleasure, too. Solo Play is something genuine you can also share with your intimate partner, learning each other in the most intimate way.
Some people talk about consent. But we like to talk about mutual will and enthusiasm. If all adults involved are totally into it, it is mutual pleasure. And nothing beats mutuality.
You can define yourself as monogamous, non-monogamous, poly, solo, relationship anarchist and as long as you’re honest and transparent about who you are, the safe haven within a healthy relationship will embrace you. There are no rules between lovers; only those they dictate between themselves, mutually. You can have a vanilla Hollywood-style relationship and you can have the kinkiest love ever - it is yours to savor on. BDSM, kinks, vibrators, plugs, whips, bondage accessories, costumes or ice cubes, it is all good, as long as it is mutual. And we can’t say it enough. Mutually, love, honesty, and open-mindedness are sex-positivity.